Trigger Warning: Sexual Abuse

Warning: reading, thinking and writing about sexual abuse for four days straight could bring on some sort of general malaise. And here’s three reasons why….

1 – The numbers are staggering:

1 in 3 females and 1 in 5 males will be sexually assaulted in some way by the age of 18

3 out of 5 victims are threatened or physically coerced

90% of the time, the aggressor is someone the child knows

1 sex offender will abuse as many as 120 kids, unless yer a Jimmy Savile, who abused about 450

57% of First Nations women have been sexually assaulted in Canada

40% of children disclose being sexually assaulted

85% of the 1.5 million runaways in the USA are fleeing some form of abuse

2 – The judicial systems are often reprehensible in how they handle sexual abuse:

In Canada just three years ago, a judge asked a 19 year old female who had been raped over a bathroom sink at a house party, “Why couldn’t you just keep your knees together?” and then, not only acquitted the offender but, told him that he needed to tell his male friends to protect themselves and be careful…

Also in Canada, another judge let an offender go free even after his admission of guilt; because the judge could not believe that the victim didn’t say or do anything about the abuse for 9 years…

In Texas, there was a recent story of a judge who granted probation to an abuser because he said that the stigma the guy would have to live with as a registered sex offender was enough punishment, this after the offender admitted to raping his sister…

In the USA, Latvia and Belgium, to name a few, there are stories of Government officials, police and judges, who shut down investigations into pedophile rings, try to cover up evidence or give lenient sentences to offenders…

In some countries there are no laws prohibiting rape, child marriage or sexual assault, or there are laws that end up punishing the victims…

In the USA, child marriage is permitted in some states with reports of 10 year-old girls being married off to 31 year-old men, even though the legal age of consensual sex is 16…

And of course, who can forget the case of the Stanford swimmer, given a lenient six month sentence for rape because ‘alcohol had impaired his judgement’… he was let out after three months…..

And 3 – the ‘culture’ is more than a bit mind-boggling:

That there is a culture with overt or covert organizations is mind boggling enough. That it seems to be an open-secret is not…

Back in 2007, the FBI released logos they say pedophiles use(d) to covertly identify and recognize sexual preferences, with a small pink heart spiralled inside a larger one representing ‘girllover’, a small blue triangle spiralled inside a larger one representing ‘boylover’, and a variation of the boylover one to represent a ‘littleboy lover”…

There was a Dutch association that advocated for the social acceptance of pedophilia and the legalization of sexual relationships between adults and children, which was only dissolved in 2014…

There are stories of people being born into pedophile rings, with a woman who goes by the name of Kendall describing how she was born to be a sex slave (as in, that is why her parents conceived and gave birth to her), who then birthed three children of her own that were taken away from her because pedophiles bought them…

Kendall also spoke about the parties, the drugs and the sick games that the pedophiles engaged in, like hunting down children on an island and forcing children to sexually abuse or otherwise hurt each other…

There are tales of children being used, abused and killed in so-called satanic rituals…

There are accounts of religious orders covering up cases of sexual abuse, with one of the most notorious cover-ups being the Canadian Indian Residential School System…

As much as the mainstream media and alternative media cover these stories, there is still a lot of silence around the sexual abuse of children. Whether it’s victims not reporting it to parents or police for years or ever, or the abusers who ‘deny, deny, deny’, or the family and friends who don’t know what to do or say.

Yet, sexual violence permeates Western culture; from TV shows, movies, news and social media that normalize it on a daily basis, to sexist dress codes that reinforce rape culture. And this Western culture has been hell-bent on blaming the female for what happens to her against her will. It has been as easy as saying words out loud. That is all it takes to throw out a red-herring, cast a shadow of doubt or smear someone. At least, it works for rich politicians, entertainers and the like.

There are stories of pedophile-rings all over the world, that all seem to involve government officials, religious leaders, wealthy elite and famous people. It is plausible that what appear to be conspiracy theories and fake news have more than some truth to them. The people involved are smart and they’re rich, they have the means and would do whatever it takes to keep something like their pedophiliac-inclinations from mainstream knowledge.

What is truly mind-boggling is that people in positions of power and authority, people who can actually make a difference and above all else, as adults, are supposed to be there to protect the vulnerable, are the ones partaking in the damaging behaviour AND also enabling and perpetuating the horrors on children. But pedophiles and sexual abusers don’t actually see their victims as ‘people’, let alone children, the victims are merely objects to aid in physical and sexual gratification.

The blatant disregard and disrespect reminds me of Dumbo… when the circus clowns are putting the elephant in increasingly more dangerous situations and someone has the forethought to say “don’t hurt the little guy”… and another clown responds that elephants can’t get hurt because they’re made of rubber…

And it reminds me of what happened after school one day when I was 6, when a pedophile lured me off my quaint suburban street and did what he did. Afterwards, when he was pushing me out the door, he said that if I told anyone about it, everyone would know I was bad, and then he was going to have to kill my family and then he would kill me.

Thankfully, like Dumbo, I learned to fly. There is hope and help out there for victims and survivors of sexual abuse. And it must be said that there is help out there for abusers too. I dunno where I stand on punishment for the perpetrators. I learned many years after the fact that my father and his friends doled out vigilante justice all over the suburban pedophile, and while I understood the gesture, there were mixed feelings. In my book, while all actions should have consequences, an eye for an eye is just gonna leave everyone blind.

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